Posts Tagged ‘dance’

This is why my friends and I, people who can and do appreciate good salsa, think SHO is overhyped and overrated. They are ok, but some people are so totally on SHO’s dick that it isnt even funny.
Dancing to their music is trivialzing it? What the fuck EVER. But, its a good way to explain the lack of interest in some quarters. Good one. “People aren’t dancing to us because we don’t want them to”.

Anyway. I appreciate what they are saying, but it sounds likea bunch of self indulgent arrogant claptrap to me. And as I said YEARS ago in my “what it is we fear” post, treating salsa as if it were a museum piece to be preserved and cherished rather than loved and used, is what has killed it.

The world-renowned salsa band Spanish Harlem Orchestra will visit Connecticut for a night filled with classic Latin rhythms Saturday at the Shubert Theater.

However, leave your dancing shoes at home. Oscar Hernandez, SHO’s bandleader, insists that the audience should pay attention to the quality of the music being showcased live, instead of complaining because there is no space to dance at the performing arts center. After all, it’s not a party.
“I respect that, but, unfortunately, the dance trivializes what we do from an artistic point of view,” says the Puerto Rican pianist, arranger and producer, during a phone interview from Los Angeles. “People think it is one big party, and we are up there in a creative trip trying to present a musical artistic vision.”

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More of my thoughts. Excuse the unfinished nature of it.

After writing the last bit, I recalled a girl I know who was at the club. We hadnt seen each other in a LONG time and after the obligatory squealing and gushing and kissing, she started to dance and sort of looked at me and extended her hands as if to say “Come on girl”. So I started to dance too.

We danced merengue and she turned me, then I turned her. Then we danced some salsa. We would dance then she’d do a little girlish styling and a turn, then when she came back to face me, I’d do my moves and a turn. And so it went for a few songs.

I’ve often danced with women. That women in Latin Clubs dance with one another is something an AA female friend of mine commented on. She said one time there was a club and the men were all deployed and the few who remained werent really asking women to dance. So she got up with her latina friends to dance in a big ole group of women.

Sometimes when the men arent dancing or when we outnumber them too much, we women will dance in a big ole cluster of girls. I don’t have female friends I go out with, so I often wait till I see a girl I know in the group and kind of join in by standing near her. Or I’ll sidle up to some and wait for them to let me in the circle.
Sometimes, when Im dancing alone another woman who is there alone will come invite me onto the floor. Often they are older than me.

The thing about dancing with girls is that rarely are we competitive. And you don’t get the feeling that when they do a move they expect you to exceed it or that they hope u cant keep up. Many a time I have danced with older women who, appearancewise, werent a match. (Women in their late 50’s or so)

But they had the moves and they never tried to make me look bad, but helped me if I couldn’t make a turn or keep up. And I was always in awe. In exchange for them not totally smoking me in moves, I never did anything to flaunt how young and hot I was (relatively speaking, since Im middle aged) I’ve danced reggaeton with women who were in their 50’s and could move well and I always defer to them on the floor. IF not, they’d dance a salsa with me and start turning me so muchthat I got dizzy and lost and looked absolutely clueless. LOL

And when we dance with each other there seems to be a lot of mutual appreciation. When one on one, we try to match each other move for move. I’ve never had a woman try to upstage me and I’ve never tried to upstage one. When we reach the highest level that the least skilled person can dance at, we stay there. And then we each take our turns prancing and turning and showing off. Theres always a sense of attempting to take it higher and work it as much as possible, you want to urge your partner to do her best and you may do so by throwing some more hip or shoulder action in there, or doing some little flicks of the skirt or foot taps. But once she meets you and can no longer keep up- that’s it. We actually do enjoy watching one another dance and be pretty.

I guess I was just thinking about some of my friends and the fun we have. And then some of my friends who wont go dance with me, who are afraid to go out with me because Im a really good dancer and they don’t want to look bad compared to me. They don’t understand that I would never outdress or outdance them. That if we, as girls, went out as a group none of the other girls would outdress them or outdance them. Its not the way. We arent competing to be the best. We see it sort of as a team effort.

We fix each others hair in the bathroom lend each other makeup, admire how each others asses look in our pants, envy one anothers shoes or bosom or what have you. We coo over one another and OMG girl you look so fucking great! When I used to have girl friends (I’ve moved a lot so maintaining them is hard) and my sister was here, we’d share earrings and jewelry and clothing, shop for shoes in one anothers closets.

The other night I saw 2 girls exchanging shoes because one’s feet were hurting in hers so her friend gave her HER shoes. Sometimes the feeling of solidarity is so strong that we don’t care about competition, about men, about being the prettiest. We may care if OUR group as a whole is hot, but we take pride in having hot friends.

Now, I cant speak for all women, all cities, all clubs, all cultures. This is simply my experience and Im sure there are plenty of places that are more cutthroat.

Ok, enough blather

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